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How to get feedback

·Bryan Lai

How to Get Feedback

Everyone lies to you because they do not want to hurt your feelings.

Three Rules

  1. Talk about their life, not your idea.
  2. Ask about specifics in the past, not generic opinions about the future.
  3. Talk less, listen more.

Bad question:

Would you buy construction software I am building?

Better question:

How did you manage inventory when the cement shipment arrived late Tuesday?


Bad Data Still Happens

Compliments are not feedback.

That's awesome.

Answer:

Thanks. Walk me through the last time this problem happened.

Fluff is not feedback.

I usually do it this way.

Answer:

When was the last time? Show me what happened.

Feature requests are not feedback.

Can you make it sync to Excel?

Answer:

Why Excel? What does Excel let you do that the current tool does not?


In Meetings

  1. Ask "this might kill my business" questions.
  2. Keep it casual. Do not interrogate.
  3. Start broad: "What are your biggest headaches on site right now?"

Do not settle for:

Looks great. Tell me when you launch.

That is politeness, not demand.

Ask for a real cost:

  1. Time: "Would you test this with me next week?"
  2. Reputation: "Would you introduce me to your boss?"
  3. Money: "Would you sign an LOI or pay RM500 now?"

If they give none, they are not a customer.


Narrow The Customer

If the customer is "students," the feedback will be noise.

Narrow it:

Mid-sized G7 contractors in Subang who use Excel for GRN and have high employee turnover.


How To Ask For Meetings

  1. Vision: "I am trying to fix GRN for Subang mid-size companies."
  2. Framing: "I am not selling anything yet."
  3. Weakness: "I am an engineer, but I have no idea how actual site logistics work."
  4. Pedestal: "You've run 5 sites in Subang, so you know better than anyone."
  5. Ask: "Can I steal 10 minutes to learn how you handle it?"

What To Capture

  1. Prepare three hard questions.
  2. Record exact quotes.
  3. Capture emotion: angry about Excel, happy about WhatsApp.
  4. Share the notes. Do not become the learning bottleneck.

Source: The Mom Test by Rob Fitzpatrick